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I am the Pastor/Teacher of Rivers of Joy Baptist Church in Minford, Ohio since August 2008.  I am married to Charity since June 14, 1969.  I have four grown children.   Having served in the local church for over forty years as Pastor/Teacher, Asso., Youth Pastor, Minister of Education, Building Upkeep, Camp Director, Sunday School Teacher, etc. Also I have worked in the public place for as many years as I have preached. Charity and her sister are co owner of Union Mills Conf. (Bakery) in West Portsmouth Ohio

Proverbs 14 and 31 Woman Study Notes


 THE MEASURE OF A WOMAN:  
NOTES FROM Charles e. Whisnant
First Baptist Church, Altoona, Kansas 1992
Rivers of Joy Baptist Church in 2010

1A  God's Perspective on Beauty: Prov. 31:10

How do you measure a woman? Her worth, her true beauty, her total being? Historically, it's obvious that the criteria have often been very specific and restrictive. And today's society highlights this narrow point of view by many means. Simply stated, it is physical appearance. Movies, magazines, television, all bear constant witness to this external obsession.

God's perspective on women, however, is far more comprehensive. Its obvious that God is not opposed to beauty — not even in the sensual sense. In a unique and incomparable way, He created "woman for man " I Corin. 11:9. And any normal man bears witness to this reality. He responds to what he sees. After God made Eve he did say "very Good" Gen. 1:31. God did see the physical beauty, after all they were both naked and were not ashamed: Gen 2:25.
But the most significant qualities were internal. This is pointed out clearly in the rest of scripture.

But, God's intended perspective on women has been marred. Sin, entered in the world, caused man to focus on external beauty and to abuse it, pervert it and use it for all kinds of selfish purposes.

But God's perspective goes on nevertheless! And men and woman who seek to do God's will can discover what that perspective is. It neither eliminates physical beauty, nor excludes inner qualities. God's perspective certainly includes both, but puts the emphasis where it ought to be--on what is real, living, lasting, and ultimately satisfying—and all within His moral laws.

God put's a high premium on Christian maturity. A dynamic profile for Christian maturity, for both men and women.

Both Paul and Peter say some things specified for women. Uniquely directed at women. These virtues in turn serve as criteria for measuring Christian maturity and true and lasting beauty.
TITUS 2:3-5
I TIMOTHY 3:11
I PETER 3:1-4
HERE IS A BRIEF LIST OF THOSE QUALITIES FOUND IN THESE PASSAGE OF SCRIPTURES

IB To Be WORTHY of Respect I Timothy 3:11
"Women in like manner serious, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things." (CBL/Greek) WOMAN (gunaikas) (wives of deacons) Some say those who hold a position of leadership in the assembly.  "Deaconesses" some use. GRAVE: (KJV) is in the Gr. semnas, meaning serious (4441 E/G CBL)says "WORTHY OF RESPECT. DIGNIFIED, HOLY, HONORABLE"  Its the goal of all Christians to have in their lives.

The idea is that we could teach carefully and in a dignified way. Its the concept of this: We must make sure we have carefully researched what we teach; our interpretations and applications should be accurate, and we should teach with confidence blended with humility and sincerity.

"A respectful" life style" particularly to those who are going to teach younger women.
A reverent, and dignified life-style (whether pastor, or teacher or even a general Christian) will form a backdrop against which the opponents of Christianity "may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us" Titus 2:8.

There is a sense in this word (semnos) that is significant in developing the quality of respect and dignity in our lives. It has to do with what we think about—the world of "ideas" and "things". Phil.4:8 Paul gives the idea. Paul deals with the conduct as well as the character. They must model good and godliness. I Tim. 3:14f. ("I am writing you these instructions so that______________________________ people in God's household might know how to conduct their lives." (CBL/GE)

What does our mind dwell on................................ What do women/man think on...............................
And what do they think about and do that could cause her to lose self-respect and consequently the respect of others?

Literature, TV shows, movies—anything that stimulates carnal appetites and that focuses on non-Christian behavior will eventually affect our self-respect.

Proverbs 14:1

Many modern-day novels, magazine articles, soap operas cater to the flesh and focus on lying, cheating, illegitimate sex, backbiting, gossiping, foul language, etc.
Any Christian woman who takes seriously God's standards for living, yet allows her mind to "think on these things" will sooner or later lose self-respect and be in danger of losing the respect of her husband, her children, and her close friends.
[NOTE GETZ'S BOOK, PAGE 20-24, a personal project which is designed to women develop self-respect as well as respect from others.]
(I will insert those pages in this material, also good for counseling)
There are several other qualities given:

2A  BE NOT MALICIOUS TALKERS: i.e. slanderers (1222 CBL) false accuser, (diabolous)

Gossip, out of control, can turn to slander. 3A  TO BE TEMPERATE (SOBER) gr. nephaleous, (3386) drinking no wine, temperate

clearheaded.   A lack of self control and temperance is a mark of spiritual immaturity.      [moderation in action, thought, feeling]

With all the sophistication in our culture, you would think that emotional and psychological stress would be diminished in this culture. But not so. There seems to be more frustrated women today as ever before, Why?

Increased pressures, new demands, unbelievable "performance standards" in our American culture. With the increase of frustration, there have become more "escape routes."  It used to be alcohol, still is, but now also drugs. (Both acceptable and unacceptable kinds). There is tobacco that is packaged in various shapes and sizes.

There is exotic food,
Beautiful clothing styles that change every season,
Clubs, you wouldn't believe, from PTO to Golf.
Where as many Christian women who would never take a drop of alcohol or a drug, However they "over-eat" with every degree of regularity.
There must be temperance applied to many things in life, including "eating food", spending money on herself, her family, on her home.

A woman must be temperate in all the means she uses to ease her frustration and stress and to satisfy her basic needs and desires.
The bible teaches temperance and self-control in all things: I Corin. 10: 23^ to 11:1. .   Held or kept within limits.